Thursday, August 24. 2006
Feeling other people's pain - a reader submission
Several days ago I received an email from a woman, Jackie, who described her experience with feeling where other people have pain or illness when she glides her hand around the person. Her abilities are natural to her, not developed, and she has a lot of questions, since she never learned about this. Read her story and my reply to her. I hope you find it interesting and inspiring. If you have some personal stories please share them. Here it is:
If I scan my hands about 2 or 3 inches over a persons body I can feel if they have pain or even illness. I can feel the intensity of any pain. If my hand feels like it's going to burn up then I deduce that the person has a tremendous amount of pain in that area. I can tell the shape and depth of the area.
If the person is ill and isn't aware, I usually get goose bumps, and feel nervous, and afraid when that happens. I start to feel ill myself. My first instinct is to leave or at least stand away from that particular person. I feel that I can't handle news like that especially if it's a friend or even a distant acquaintance.
If the person is a friend and this feeling overtakes me just to stand next to that person I then am compelled to let whatever words flow from my mouth come out. Sometimes I leave quickly and try to calm myself down. I really try to suppress the nervousness I have during and after. I can't get rid of the turmoil inside of me until I tell the person how I felt and what happened. Then I always feel so relieved and even smile that the message/news whatever it's called has been passed on to the right person.
I really need to know what this is and feel that perhaps I am supposed to do more with this gift but what? I am the biggest skeptic of my own gifts..therefore I challenge myself...any ideas
respectfully Jackie C.
Below is my answer to her:
Hello, Jackie.
What you describe is known to me. Not so personally, although I do remember that when I healed migraine from my wife once, using an energy healing technique, I felt my fingers ache a little with an unusual pain, a little bit like some current was passing through them. But I know from what I've learned that those whose gift at feeling others people's energy field is strong that they can feel the pain of others more vividly on themselves. The pain usually starts to feel at the fingers or the palm, depending on what you use for scanning. Then it can move up the hand and even get to the shoulder. I heard an advice lately to not let it pass above the elbow. Since you don't heal the person while you scan (as I understand from your mail), I'd advice you the following:
If your feeling of pain rises from the palm over your wrist, first try shaking your other hand, if it's free. Shake it like you're trying to get something off it. If this doesn't help, withdraw from your scanning and go and wash your hands with water up to elbows. Washing hands with water is recommended in most (if not all) energy healing systems I've studied. The water removes the energy that you collect on your hands. After washing the hands you should feel them "blank", without any pain, as it should be normally.
Again, what you describe is perfectly normal for someone with the ability to feel other people's pain and illness. And you're correct: it is possible to feel some illness even before the patient himself knows about it. That's one of the greatest things of energy diagnosis.
As to the fact that you're afraid to tell, I totally understand you. First, people might not believe. And if they do, they might not like it and actually start feeling even worse, because of fear of the disease, etc. You have to have a stronger belief in yourself first and then take the responsibility to tell others that they're sick before they know it. If you could heal it, then it would be easier as well.
Since you are already very sensitive I'd advice you to take some kind of an energy healing course. This will help you in several ways:
First, to get used to your ability and to see that it's normal and nothing to be afraid of. See it as a gift, actually.
Second, you can learn how to undo pain and illnesses using energy manipulation. I've studied such a course and although my abilities to sense don't seem to be as good as yours, I've been able to help people around me and to take away pain in different situations.
Sincerely,
Jacob.
Since then she also wrote me about her experience with helping her husband and taking away his pain using visualization while feeling the pain emanating from him.
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Dr. Richard Wiseman's Further Comments
Btw Jacob, either my web browser can't read this page properly, or you need to adjust the border for your text. The first letter or two of every line is cut off.
Do you only know after you touch the muscle? If yes, than most probably it's your professional experience coming into play.
Maybe you also have good intuition that goes along with your professionalism.
About the bug. Thanks, it really was a bug in IE6 (I'm using Firefox mostly). Looking it up in google I found the resolution and now it's ok.
While I can tell from Jackie's story that I'm not as sensitive as she is, I too am puzzled as to how I acquired this gift with little to no practice.
Btw, I'm not an RMT. When it comes to detecting worn muscles, it's just an intuition that I picked up. You can feel what's best described as a knot.
I'm gald you're having some success with your feeling ability. You see, you only had to try this and you've already got some result. The problem is that most people never try.
Way to go, MD.
For some reason, if I feel extreme heat, a black image pops into my mind and I believe I can see the shape of the area with pain.
Actually; I am positive I see the image also I can tell how deep it is in the body. Anyone know what I mean?
I've been giving all of this a great deal of thought. I've only recently, realized that I've been 100% correct. That amazes me.
All these years and I never thought twice about; how often I was accurate!
Now I BELIEVE I HAVE this gift. I still am lost about what, if anything should I do next!
We don't have any groups about this subject in this area. How am I going to learn? Is it meant for me to heal? If so; then why is it I have no feelings in my right hand sometimes? Why is it that I have disc problems in my back and neck? Why do I have a thyroid that goes too fast? (this is recent) Why has my eyesight rapidly gotten worse? anyone reply...pleaseee!!!
I have been seeking answers for the past 6 years. Some of it had to do with karma connection of my parents. i have been trying to get this negative off of me for the past six months. My money has been blociked, my husband left me, I am a Minister and I tell you Its a different type of life. I have been asking for help to meet others who can heal and have great gifts, I also can be around someone and become them, the only differnce is that I get all their negative junk. i think I have gotten the negative coming off my back and now I have the Holy spirit removing it and I can feel blocks coming up. I also feel the blocks burst and air and sand is coming out. Its terriable.
I am trying to stay positive for as you know I cant be negative at all. The only problem is because of the negative I was drawing negative people and circustances to me. Any solutions. Is ther anything to do about removing all this negative ASAP??? I know about butting a shield over myself at least I know now. i also ground myself, now,
Does anyone know anything else I can do. I had this vibration on me which was really strong and boy i was even pu;;ing in entities. I had to remove them. It's not fun. i know I am a healer and I ahve strong psysic abilities, but this learning process is not fun. Any Idea about this sand and hot air energy. Now I have the ability to feel everything in the inside of my body. I cant see it but I can feel it.
I can read minds, and pick up others energy. Boy this traing is too much I don't know where it is leading me. But it sure is good to talk to people who will not think I am crazy.
I can feel cords and had to release them I had to do so much work along with the Holy Spirit I ask and he does the healing for me. Boy or Boy What will I end up being.????
Felecia
It does feel so crazy sometimes! I catch other peoples energy states 24/7. I have used EFT (emofree.com free manual on fast-acting techniques for clearing negativity) a lot and prayer a lot too:-) all peace possibilities explored! People who refuse to cry I sit next to them & in 5 minutes I'm crying and can't explain why to tear phobic next to me!! 'Becoming people', I also use this very phrase, sand, chords I feel it all in my body,also many other sensations. I will be honest and say that it is only when I pray/meditate/make music every day that I get real peace; morning especially I state that I wish only the good for all of life everywhere-this seems to hold back the role of my fears taking shape in negative reality.you can make people smile just by thinking it.may divine intelligence/ smiles/ peace/ love/ etc rule here now. You are now in service to the greater community, everything you feel, you save them from feeling.Its like you are a lightening conductor- you feel the sensation of the pain in their knee as it passes from being stuck to their knee to shared with you in order to escape(heal) through your connection to divine/peace/angel help.you are only a tool for angels to use, detatch from every moment as it comes .we have huge resposibility to keep our peace. you are already fully trained,you work mostly with the invisible unconscious parts of yourself,and you are a busy healer by what you say.get happy music or anything that can bring you back to peace moment to moment.basic stuff- balance excersise 20mins p/day drink water wet hands and face thanking for purification & you will feel it Always Give Thanks and you won't be thrown in over your head adopt an angel/fairy of courage only deal is you are thankful & all is yours
thanks
ken
There was another post that talked about this as well with some advice. See http://www.mind-energy.net/archives/134-How-to-protect-oneself-from-other-peoples-negative-energy-reader-asks.html
I also experience what I can only describe as a negative warming sick feeling energy followed by a head ache. The feeling stays with me for hours sometimes even when I am no longer by that person.
I am used to this by now of cores but am puzzled by what I experienced today. I work in a grocery store and was asked to guard one of the vomit accidents a customer’s child had spewed down several isles in the store. Though I had never even seen the child and stood far as I could away so I didn't have to smell it, I felt the sick energy sensations so strong it was as though I was holding the child myself. I immediately thought "that child is very sick". It has now been 6 hours since the incident and I am still experiencing, though mild, some of that sick energy. I am wondering if there are any references or books on such things. I would like to be able to help these people some how but have not been able to find anything so far.
To cut down on the back rub time I went right to the places and started to masage the area.
Jackie
here are some story's
my friend and I where riding our bikes and my friend
hit a rock and flow over his handle bards and broke his arm... as soon as I whet to help him I just tapped his solder and then I felt burning needle like pain in my arm that I touched him and I fall to the ground screaming in pain beside him. I felt as if my arm was broking!
story 2
my girl friend skipped school and whet to her friends and I sayed at school... in the middle of class I was talking to a friend when I got sick I got so sick so fast I was in tears... after a day or two my illness was over but I was sad and over a week or two I got sadder
until I was so deprasted I was rude to my friends.. then she told me that something was bugging her and she was up set over it her friend abused her i was feeling her disguise for the peson who had done that and later bet the **** out of them but I felt so disturber so alone before she told me that..
what is this??? What I'm a supposed with this problem or gift and can I expand on.... my power?
& i'm so glad i found this site, it explains everything im going through
I'm constantly avoiding doing my meditations... fearing this ability will increase or I won't be abe to put up with what I see or feel. I often fealt lost. Now I just think of it this way. There are so many bad things happening in the world. And if it is going to happen there is nothing I can do. It would have happened if I was alive or not. Of course I can pray for things to be OK. But in the end no use letting it destroy me.
But still though it effects me from time to time. Like long before something is going to happen I get all upset sometimes... my mood changes etc. But after it happens I feel a great big relief....
In the Sufi belief if you tell people your gift will be taken away. So that is what I did. In the past I knew what illness the person or animal had. But now that has kind of gone. thanks to my big mouth. lol. But I really wish that it would completely go away or at leat not harm me. I wish I could control it.
I think I wrote a little mumbled jumbled... but I hope you forgive me for that.
Take care... wherever and whoever you are.
I have prayed that God take away my gift as well...NOW I WANT UNDERSTAND WHY I HAVE this gift. and how can I help people.I HAVE ALWAYS WANTED to know if anybody was like me.BUT I HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO FIND ANYBODY .I am a Chirstian so I ASK THE CHURCH FOR HELP AND EVEN SOME OF THEM thought that I was crazy so I prayed to be just a normal saint. BUT I need answers, I have been able to help people with my gift.
I will tell you about a couple events of my life .I HAVE DREAMS ABOUT PEOPLE THAT when I TELL THEM it aways come true. I have visions that come true and one time I MET THIS GUY THAT I told him ALL about his life and that he had murdered people and never been caught. I HAVE TALK TO PEOPLE ABOUT CRIMINAL ACTS THEY HAVE DONE AND HOW THEY HAVE GOTTEN AWAY WITH IT. I HAVE TOLD PEOPLE ABOUT BRAIN TUMORS THEY HAD AND WHEN THEY WENT TO THE DOCTOR IT WAS TRUE , WHEN SOMEONE IS EVIL I CAN FEEL IT WHEN I TOUCH THERE HANDS .but that's just a little that I'LL SAY ABOUT ME .BUT I 'M GLAD TO KNOW I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT IS DIFFERENT . ANYBODY THAT READ THIS AND CAN RELATE TO WHAT I AM SAYING EMAIL ME AT mark4amiracle@yahoo.com
You can read my answer on my blog http://healinghands-bonnie.blogspot.com/
Happy Healing,
Bonnie Adam
about 2 weeks ago i got the worst pain in my back. I couldnt even move..(which is very rare for me because i have such a high pain tolerance) i was overwhelmed by the pain and i knew that something was wrong. about and hour later i got a call saying that one of my best friends had fallen off a cliff and died. they said that he had injuries to his back and head. i've never been so freaked out in my life. i dont know why i have this gift or what i am supposed to do with it. is it good? is it bad?
And on a side note, recently i seem to have a knack for pretty well predicting moments and plays in baseball games- maybe thats just coincidence tho.
when someone is in pain, i see this as a gift
but also, people tell me my skin is too thin, i pick up mostly negative energy anyone can see a happy person as happy, if there are six people in
a room, and one is sad I pick up on it right away...sometimes my first thought is its me, i did something wrong, does anyone else feel that sometimes, i want to control my sensitivity but also like to be able to read others any help would be great!
the next coincidence were my "shin splints" or so i thought. a very close friend of mine had been going through a terrible ordeal, we were talking and he told me that he thinks the stress had been wearing on his legs, and that he carries his stress in his lower legs. he said that the pain had been so bad he could not sleep - it was the exact pain that i had been feeling. he also lives 1000 mi away from me. and my 3rd and most recent occurence is this bone-chilling cold that i felt for about 5 hours, i was so cold that i couldn't move. i spoke with my best friend and she was explaining to me about how her desk was moved next to the front door of her small office. this particular day, they were moving in new equipment, and it was 30 degrees outside, so she was freezing all morning. this might not sound like a big deal, but everyone else in my office building was extrememly warm that day, and i was bundled up and could hardly move i was soooo cold. she also lives 1500 mi away.
what???why???how???help???
I notice everyone's gift is a bit different, but it's always in the same direction.
I have something in the same genre. I've had it my whole life and it's only growing stronger. I don't have it with strangers, only with people I get to know a bit.
I feel their pain, I don't feel physical pain from others just the emotional pain like a broken hart frome a girl who's boyfriend left her, or when you have financial problems, the worries can make you feel pain in your hart.
That's wat I feel, so basically when people I know have hartpains or sorrows I feel it in my hart as hard as they feel the pain in their hart themselves.
I've always wanted to be able to take their pain away even if it was just for a short moment, a moment they can rest, breath freely so they can forget their sorrows. That only happend once not so long ago, I was talking to someone with a lot of pain, supporting an compfort her, suddenly I felt all the pain vanishing into thin air. She told me afterwards that she felt it to, she said:
"Thanks for the chat, there was a moment I felled good again, since half a year that was the first time I actually felt real happiness again".
I guess that's the next step of development of my ability. I would like to develop this gift so that I can do this every time I can. Are there any sites that can guide me?
I've talked to my friends about this, but they've just told me that it's just that I am very observant and I can tell how they feel by their emotions... but it's more than that. In the past few months, it's as if I am becoming even more aware. As if I am feeling exactly what a person is going through, if not to the extreme.
Yesterday, I was on AIM and looked at a person's screen name that I rarely talk to. Just by looking at their screen-name I became very angry, but in a confused way. I didn't know what was happening to me. I sent a message to the person and asked them how their day was. They told me that their day had not been very good. They had found out that morning that a very close friend of theirs had been killed in a car accident. The feelings that I had felt were exactly as if I had lost a very close friend in a car accident.
Today, I am still feeling these feelings. I don't know what is happening. I am not close to the person that I talked to, and do not even know their lost friend.
That's how I found this site. Everything you want to know is online, lol. Anyone have any knowledge of things like this?
I myself pick up on people pains I don't know why I just do so ALL I can say is we can keep in touch with one another and try to find out together
Anyway I thought I was a freak but I beleive that God has plans for some people and for others he has gifts. I dont understand them but oh well. I have been able to help various peopls, some without knowing them, just by knowing of them by others comments to me.
Well if anyone has this "Gift" please let me know how you channel that energy into something positive, or at least how do you control the energy. Also how can I build resistance to certain problems so that It doesnt take that long for me to recuperate from the pain.
thanks
ranisen@hotmail.com
"this isnt mine and I release it out into the earth " imagining a cord running through me and into the earth - it took several hours but eventually it went away. Weeks later I saw my cousin and he said to me " I dont know what
happened when you saw my dad but hes been pain free for several weeks "
Then next time I went to the hospital it started to happen as soon as I entered the building...
I dont ask for it to happen - it just does. An energy exchange occurs really fast -
I think we just become a channel for the energy to flow and be released - yet it can cause me to be really umcomfortable and even at times makes me think Im having physical issues of my own - like Im not sure whos pain it really is???
Makes me realize how connected we all are.
Now I work as a paramedic and I am better able to keep the pain out of my body - but lately something is happening again and its starting to really get intense for me. Its making me look again at my healing abilities and ask for help from the higher ups...
Jesus was a healer - I ask him for advice...
C.
I still haven't found the answer as to how to control all this energy thing
going on. I really do not know what to do. I've done some research online
but haven't been able to come across anything satisfying. How do you protect
yourself from negative energy and sicknesses that you feel or sometimes get
from others? How can you protect yourself from being depressed when you know
something is going wrong? How can you protect yourself from all the uncomfortable
sticky and (forgive me for saying this) yucky energy that is radiated from others in public places?
Has anyone found a solution for this? I'd really want to know.
to sleep then i can look at somebody making them tired
and they end up going to sleep. I have back pain, extremely tense muscles from head to toe and for the last few yrs evrybody i've come in contact with has expirenced some kind of pain or headaches just beng around me. I'm a quite person who doesn't start trouble just in alot of pain. I can feel other ppl's pain but tend to ignore it cause of my own pain. Everytime i'm alone with someone they have a tendency to start telling me their problems, pain, or troubles in life as if i was sapsose to help them somehow. As much as i want to i don't know how. Can anybody help me understand or tell me whats going on?
i often wonder if i am just connecting things that arnt connected or if i have a ablity to feel others pain and know things about them. what do you guys think? my mother also thinks that she is phycic. whenever i tell her these storys she becomes very happy.
describing. email me if you still need advice or have questions.
Also, how old were you when you developed this, and what
was going on in your life around that time?
armando_ginoboli20@yahoo.com